3 Ways To Stop Giving Your Energy Away Starting Tonight

Dear Small but mighty:

**Before I go any further, I want to clarify what I mean by small-it’s when you let yourself shrink to please others or hide your dreams, making your true self feel distant. Recognising this is the first step to reclaiming your power and reconnecting with your authentic self.

We were on our way to Barcelona and had no idea there was a blackout.

We arrived, and something was immediately different. More people were on the street. The traffic lights were not working. We knew something was up. And then a stranger on the street told us what happened. Which doesn’t happen anymore. People don’t talk to strangers.

When we parked and walked down into the city, we could hear a quiet that was interesting. You could hear people talking. You could hear people actually communicating with each other. Yet there was a peaceful energy in the air. No buzzing of electricity. No buzzing of people on their phones. Nobody could call anybody. Nobody could be on social media. Everyone was forced to look up and around.

And that was just beautiful.

I remember feeling a deep sigh and thinking… I wish this happened more often. That this quiet could be sustainable. That people could go back to this beautiful way of being with each other without losing the benefits of technology. Just finally, finally, balancing it all.

That day solidified something I already felt in my body. The reason I left the city. To choose the mountains. To choose a quieter, more holistic, more boring life.

Yes. I said boring.

People think that’s a loss. But when they sit in it long enough, they realize it’s the opposite. It’s invigorating. Because it aligns you with your own truth and your own voice.

Even after I left. Even after I chose the mountains and the birds and the slow mornings. I was still giving my energy away.

Here is what that looked like for me.

I wrote a book. A real publisher said yes to my ideas, my thoughts, my voice. They decided it was valuable enough to put out into the world. Even though I treated it like a small thing, it was something I always wanted: I always wanted to be an author, and I treated it like it almost didn’t happen.

Because I was so consumed by watching what every other healer, coach, and mentor was doing online, I kept jumping to the next thing. The thing I wasn’t doing. The thing that made me feel behind. I was so busy looking out that I forgot to look at what was already here.

Many people around me don’t even know I wrote a book.

Someone else would have plastered it everywhere, I say this with sadness, because I didn’t celebrate it. not really… not with myself. Social media made me feel that it wasn’t enough. That I had to keep going. That my book, my published, validated, real book, was somehow not worth stopping for.

That is self-abandonment.

The quiet kind, the kind that happens slowly while you are busy watching everyone else’s life instead of witnessing your own and staying a little bit longer in it.

So dear, small but mighty,

At some point, you have to ask yourself, who is witnessing your life?

Who is celebrating your wins? Who is seeing what you have built, what you have survived, what you have quietly and stubbornly become? Did you take a moment to appreciate yourself and all you have done for yourself, instead of keeping your energy outside yourself, watching everyone else, and comparing without even realizing you are comparing?

You can come back. It is not too late. It does not require moving to the mountains. It does not require a blackout in Barcelona.

It just requires you to start returning your energy to yourself. Here is where I would begin.

Listen to yourself in the morning before the world gets in.

Before you pick up your phone, take one breath and ask yourself what you are thinking. What you need. Most meditation practices tell us to push thoughts away, and I respect that practice. But to love someone, you have to listen to them first. So listen. Your thoughts are not your enemy. They are you, asking to be heard.

Look honestly at where your energy is going.

Go and look at your screen time right now. I used to spend six hours a day on social media. That is 42 hours a week. That is a part-time job spent watching other people’s lives instead of building my own. Before you decide anything, look. Then ask yourself… how do I feel five minutes into being on this platform? Is this enriching my life? What am I afraid would happen if I left?

I am not going to baby this. I am going to ask you to be bold.

Create quiet in your bedroom at night.

Turn off the wifi. Turn off the electricity if you can. You know that particular peace when the power goes out in your house? That specific silence? You can sleep in that every night. Your body remembers how to rest. It is just waiting for you to give it the chance.

Small but mighty, your energy is yours. Your life is happening right now, while you are watching everyone else’s. Your dreams are real. Your quiet morning is real. Slow down, it will enrich you.

Come back to it.